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NEW FAMILY CULTURAL AND LANGUAGE TRAINING NOW AVAILABLE IN BELLINGHAM, WA

China Travel Series with Lilly Yang

China: A Changing Nation
Are you intrigued by China, one of the most rapidly changing nations in the 21st Century? This is your opportunity to gain an overview of China's extensive and far-reaching history and culture. Instructor Lilly Yang will describe both ancient and modern China, its government, political organizations, and cultural aspects. You will learn how the Chinese people honor their history as they live their modern lives. The insights gained will enrich your upcoming travel experiences, whether for pleasure or business.
W8098 / 1 session
M from 6:30 PM to 9:00 PM
Yang
$29
Start Date:3/3
End Date: 3/3
WCC - Kulshan 225

Making the Right Impression in China: Cultural Awareness and Etiquette
Join in this fascinating evening dedicated to looking at the cultural traits of the Chinese and how their traditional customs play such an important part in developing relationships--both locally and globally. By gaining an understanding and sensitivity to Chinese culture and the subtle nuances that most Westerners rarely grasp, you will learn how to make a good first impression, communicate with heightened sensitivity to Chinese social mores, and understand "guanxi" (social connections). Encounters of all kinds, whether for business or pleasure travel, will have more positive outcomes after taking this workshop.
W8102 / 1 session
M from 6:30 PM to 9:00 PM
Yang
$29
Start Date:3/10
End Date: 3/10
WCC - Kulshan 225

Top Ten Must-See Sites and Cities of China
Few countries on earth have such an intensity of beauty, a longer and richer history, or are as exciting to visit as China in the 21st century. Instructor Lilly Yang will cover the Chinese capitals of Beijing and Xian; historical sites such as Kaifeng and Chengde; Shanghai--seat of economic power; and enchanting places such as Guilin and Jiuzhaigou. Whether your future travel is for business or pleasure, you will come away inspired to make your dream trip a reality.
W8106 / 1 session
M from 6:30 PM to 9:00 PM
Yang
$29
Start Date:3/17
End Date: 3/17
WCC - Kulshan 225

China Travel Series--Take all three classes for just $75
W8094 / 3 sessions
SAVE!

Chinese Language: A Traveler's Primer
Whether for business or pleasure, your future trip to China will be much more enjoyable and stress-free if you have a basic command of Chinese travel phrases. By using audio and role playing, instructor Lilly Yang will cover greetings, introductions, numbers, telling time, shopping transactions, ordering food, and more. All course materials are included in course fee; no textbook required. Don't miss this practical and valuable course as you prepare for your travels to China.
W8110 / 4 sessions / 8 clock hrs.
W from 6:30 PM to 8:30 PM
Yang
$79
Start Date:2/27
End Date: 3/19
WCC - Kulshan 225

Please visit Adoption Learning Partners at: www.adoptionlearningpartners.org for a two hour on line training session entitled "Let's Talk Adoption: A Lifetime of Family Conversations". Our parents have found this site very helpful in answering many of their adoption questions.

We suggest every family consider TRAVEL PROTECTION as they plan their adoption trip. Click here for a travel insurance program that specializes in adoptive family travel protection.

Check these additional links for more valuable information:

• Adoption Glossary -
   Here are all those adoption words with family friendly definitions
  

• Easy step-by-step overview -
   Here is a nicely formatted general overview of the entire adoption process
  

• What to do while you wait -
   The wait from referral of your child to the time you can actually travel can seem like an  eternity. This page will give you tons of great ideas on using this time to your benefit.
  

• Government forms at your fingertips -
   Visit the Immigration site for all your adoption form needs.
  

• Visit the Secretary of State site to locate the office you'll need to apostille/certify your documents
  

• EMK Press -
   EMK Press is a publisher of adoption themed materials for Infants to Young Adults from  the perspective of the child.
  

• Families for Russian & Ukrainian Adoption Including Neighboring Countries. -
   A support group of volunteer adoptive families working for adoptive families during all stages of adoption.
  

• Adoptive Families -
   The award-winning national adoption magazine, is the leading adoption information source for families before, during, and after adoption.
  

• Adoption Lifebooks -
   This site is dedicated to providing you with resources to help your child understand their past so they can thrive in the future. Whether you're an adoptive mom or dad, or an agency worker, the resources on this site will help with the lifebook creation process. 

Recommended Reading

• "Adoption's Lifetime Issues: What parents need to know" by Jean MacLeod
  

• "What is Transracial Adoption" by Gail Steinberg and Beth Hall
  

• "Icing on the Cake, adoption parenting your 5-10 year old" by Jean MacLeod
  

• "Using Books to Open the Adoption Dialog" by Jane A. Brown, MSW
  

• "Dancing With Ghosts, Birthmother Loss and the Adopted Child" by Jean MacLeod
  

• "*BABYSHOCK* Depression and International Adoption" by Jean MacLeod
  

• "Is My Kid Normal? Seeking Therapy for Your Adopted Child" by Jean MacLeod
  

• "Attaching in Adoption" by Deborah Gray
  

• "The Maltreated Child (Finding what Lurks Beneath)" by Steven Gray, Ph.D.
  

• "The Handbook of International Adoption Medicine (A guide for Physicians, Parents, and Providers)" by Laurie, C. Miller, MD.

Additional Parent Information

• National Center for Learning Disabilities' article "Being an Advocate for Your Pre-School Child"

• Preparing for Life After Your Child is Home:

  • Plan for post-adoption adjustments - consider a "familymoon" with no outside obligations for at least a couple of weeks
  • Educate yourself on post-adoption emotional adjustments, up to and including post-adoption depression and post-adoption PTSD
  • Plan for some post-adoption issues to surprise you.
  • Have quick, easy meals planned and ready in the cupboard or the freezer for the early days
  • Keep a list of important contact people to call with questions, concerns or when you just need to talk!
  • Do NOT overload your child in the early days and weeks at home - that includes limiting visitors, limiting excursions, even limiting gifts. Gradually, you will be able to take the limits off as your child becomes more accustomed to life in his or her new home.
  • If this is your first child, be prepared for major life changes! This includes loss of privacy (the kids follow you to the bathroom), loss of personal space, a decreased ability to be completely spontaneous, etc.
  • If this is not your first child, be prepared for things to BE DIFFERENT than with a biological child, and indeed, from other children you may have adopted in the past.
  • Be flexible in your expectations - for yourself, for your new child and for others in your support circle
  • Know that the adjustment of going from "Me" to "Mommy" overnight can be completely overwhelming. You can get lost before you know it.
  • Be prepared for feeling a bit like an "impersonator" of a Mommy or a Daddy - it's a new role and one no one can quite prepare you for.
  • Don't be surprised if you ask yourself "WHAT HAVE I DONE?!" It's very common!
  • Guilt feelings seem to come with the package
  • Expect your child to have attachment difficulties
  • Expect your child to grieve, no matter how old (or young) they are when they join you
  • Expect that reality will be different than fantasy and can lead to all kinds of feelings - guilt, resentment, surprise, frustration and more.
  • Don't expect to fall in love instantly with this new person in your lives - if it happens, wonderful! If not, know that you are perfectly normal and in the majority
  • Expect their emotional maturity to lag behind their chronological age
  • Don't be surprised when parenting methods that have worked before with biological children, or adopted children who are strongly bonded to you, don't work with your new child
  • If they are older, expect boundaries to be tested - sometimes right away, sometimes after a "honeymoon"
  • For older children, expect significant milestones to bring mixed emotions early on - and maybe later on, too
  • Expect "food issues", even from the very young - the formula is different, the bottles are different, the bottle nipples are different. Every age group can be expected to have food issues
  • Don't expect your child to be grateful to you for "rescuing" them. If gratitude comes before they are parents themselves, enjoy the pleasant surprise!
  • Be consistent with certain rituals or routines - bath time, bed time, doing chores, etc. These children frequently crave ritual.
  • Consciously work on creating family traditions and rituals
  • Work on scrapbooks, with kids or by yourself. There is something incredibly healing about scrapbooks.
  • Be aware of how often you are touching your new child - he or she will need LOTS of physical contact, regardless of their age
  • Be prepared for sleep disturbances - for you AND your child!
  • Consciously work on building attachment with your new child
  • Use music in positive ways in your home
  • Be educated on post-institutionalized issues regarding personal space, personal belongings (for example, your child may help himself to someone else's things and not consider it stealing - it was, after all, the norm in the orphanage!), passiveness and/or aggressiveness, bathroom habits and more
  • Prepare for your child to be delayed in at least one area, but likely more than one.
  • Give your child developmentally appropriate chores
  • Keep your other relationships alive and healthy, especially the one with your spouse
  • Have fun!!
  • Take lots of pictures
  • And finally, enjoy the ride! There's nothing quite like it.