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Open Letter To A Mom Considering Adoption

Considering Adoption

Dear Mother Considering Adoption,

You’ve found yourself in the midst of an unplanned pregnancy and you are probably feeling a myriad of different emotions. You’re scared, happy, nervous, confused, indecisive, overwhelmed, and more. You may also feel in awe and connected to the baby growing inside of you.

If you’ve stumbled upon this blog post, I’m assuming that you are contemplating the alternatives of either parenting your baby or placing your child for adoption. This is a tough decision—one of the most important and life altering that you will ever face.

You have the option to parent this child. Perhaps you’ll be a single mother. Maybe you have support from your baby’s father, your family, and/or your friends. Regardless of support, you probably wonder if you will be a good mother. You wonder if you can juggle raising a baby with all the other things going on in your life.

You also have the option to place your child for adoption. You wonder if you can actually go through with handing over the baby you have carried for nine months to another family to raise. You wonder how you will handle not being a part of your child’s everyday life.

This is one of the hardest choices you will ever have to make. Regardless of which option you select, you are already a good mother. The time, thought, research, and energy you are putting into this decision make you a good mother. Worrying about your child’s needs and future makes you a good mother. Loving the little life inside of you makes you a good mother.

You are strong. Whatever decision you make, you can do this. Trust your instincts.

With love,

Someone Who Has Been in Your Shoes