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It’s Different When You’re Adopting

You can usually tell when someone is pregnant — not the whole pregnancy, but usually after the third month or so, you can tell. It's not like that with adoption. You can't tell by looking at us. Men look the same whether they're going through an adoption or a pregnancy, but not women. Women feel the...

What No One Tells You About Adoption

The day we began the adoption process was one of my happiest. After suffering two miscarriages and longing to become a mom for several years, I felt like my out-of-control life was finally back on track. I was going to be a mom at last! Of course, adoption is not actually that simple. The truth is t...

Five Reasons You Should STOP Trying To Adopt

If you are trying to adopt, there are going to be days filled with excitement and days filled with discouragement. Most things worth waiting for are. I had many breakdowns waiting to adopt: I wasn’t prepared for how long it was going to take, and there were many days when I was like “Screw this, I’m...

What To Expect After Your Adoption

You've no doubt dreamt about the day you will finally bring your baby home. But have you thought about what happens next? Aside from beginning your life as a new family, there are a few important things you need to be aware of. Here is a look at what to expect after adoption placement. Adoption Doe...

That's Not Your REAL Kid

I don’t think I noticed how many idiots are walking around until I adopted a child. I’m Jewish, so I’m familiar with people assuming and spewing ridiculous things about that, but adoption idiots didn’t start popping up until we adopted — or maybe I just didn’t notice them. Either way, they’re out th...

Staying Focused & Productive While You Are Waiting To Adopt

Becoming a parent may seem like a daunting task — especially if you’ve experienced pregnancy loss or have struggled with infertility. I remember those tearful days when I wondered if I would ever become a mom. Sometimes it seemed like an impossible dream, always out of my reach. Choosing adoption ga...

Helpful Tips For Adoptive Parents Choosing Baby Formula

Deciding on the right formula for your baby is a daunting task for any new parent, but the decision can often be more confusing for adoptive parents. Adoptive parents usually do not have the luxury of knowing the family history of allergies or how well older siblings handled certain types of formula...

The People You Need To Ignore

The best way to see someone’s true colors is to share something super personal and life-changing, because that’s when the rainbow (or the rain) will come out. Upon hearing your news, some people will shine bright, but some won’t. For example, when my husband and I started telling people about our de...

Who is "Anti-Adoption" and What Can We Learn from Them?

If you've researched adoption online or participated in a cross-triad adoption group, chances are you've encountered someone who seems vehemently, angrily, staunchly anti-adoption. Some say there is NO circumstance in which adoption is called for. It's just that devastating, that inhumane, that unne...

Dear Waiting Adoptive Parents

Dear Waiting Adoptive Parents, It takes a strong person to wait, especially in our culture where waiting for anything is frowned upon. Waiting is unpleasant and modern life demands fast service. But you, as a hopeful adoptive parent, know the true meaning of waiting. As you wait and hope to adopt,...

Nature vs. Nurture: What Will My Adopted Child Be Like?

As you wait to become a parent, a million questions run through your mind. What will my child be like? How will he or she fit into my family? What challenges will we face? Although no one can predict the future, there is one thing I can assure you: Your child will be a mixture of genes and environme...

Who Is Your Child Going To Be?

If you've never watched Fantastic Mr. Fox, you should. It's a great adult movie disguised as a children's movie, and totally appropriate for everyone. George Clooney, as Mr. Fox, is having a conversation with his son, Ash, about his feelings when he found out they were expecting a cub. He says to...